The art of letting it go..and how to succeed by failing...

Letting go of things that you want to hold on is a very special art and very very hurting process....but it will eventually help you grow as a person...and will help you on how to handle situations that you would normally freak out...

There is a simple analogy behind this funda....its like...more tighter you hold on to something more is the pressure you will put on it...and ultimately its you that is going on to suffer by putting that extra pressure to hold on....but trust me friends letting go of things that you want to hold on will make "YOUR" life easier....because the things that belong to you, there is no need not on hold to them.... they will stay with you with out any pressure......take any scenario in life.....relationships, job, financial matters or anything....the more you want things badly the more the disappointment you get...but you should never stop trying what you want....keep trying but be prepared to get disappointed...prepare to fail...prepare to loose things...learn to be a looser...you gotta fail in life to succeed...some of you might agree with me on this and some might not...but from my experiences of watching people around me closely I believe in the above words... Until you have failed you will never ever realize the importance of success....you wont realize what it is to miss something in your life that you wanted so badly...things like money, House, Cars etc.,...might be materialistic but those things have lot of memories, struggles, failures that we all go through...For most of you folks things might be going just fine in all corners...but life being a bitch will throw in a surprise here and there..to screw you...and you gotta be strong to come out of it...other wise you will feel and live like a looser rest of your life...


people who have never lost anything will never ever realize the importance of that thing....and when they find it again...they will handle it very carefully...take care of it in mature way that before...and for those folks who ask what if I don't get a second chance? my answer is that YOU WILL..god or who ever is up there will always give us a second chance to make things right....it is up 2 u to identify that opportunity and grab it with both hands

Never look back at what happened when you gotta move forward...never think what you could have done to avoid being in the present situation......I think only those people who live in the moment live their life to the fullest not in past not in future...but the present. We all live in present not in past not in future..so it kinda makes sense to have a good time when you are there.

I hope this gibberish made some sense to at least few of you out there....
cheers.

Emotional Atyachar....Is that what you get from every relationship??

Everyone out there must have been in relationship at some point of time...few good ones and few bad ones...this is my attempt to summarize how the relationships start and end....This post is inspired by Vicious Circle of life by the guys at 3pinhole.blogspot.com . I tried to use some of the famous dialogues girls and guys say in each phase.....This post is inspired by many relationships I have witnessed and heard about...I would like to know how many of you agree with me... :-)

Phase 1:
This phase starts immediately after the initial attraction b/w two people, attraction can be physical (for most of the guys) or Intellectual . In this phase you have this curiosity to find out everything about the other person, their likes, interests, food habits, dressing sense, music sense....If the other person smokes or boozes (girls especially)...basically you show that you care about the other person in this phase...

Here are some of the famous dialogues

"Hey where did you go, I was worried about you"
"I was looking forward to talk to you the whole day"
"You sound low today, is every thing alright"
"I really like you"
"What do you do for fun?"
"What type of music do you like?"
"It was fun hanging out with you, we should do it some other time" "So what do you like about me?"

Phase 2:
This is the most lovely phase...both people are happy that they are in a relationship and they have someone who likes them more than anybody....It's the "love is blind , deaf, dumb and fuck the world I'm in love, I don't give fuck about anyone.... I got my girl/guy" Phase....You start ignoring your friends...you dont look at your health, you start missing working out gym so that you can spend time with your love... You simply like what ever the other person does...their smile, the way they sleep, eat, dress up vagera vagera...

Here is some shit we all say....

"I luv u more than anything in life"
" I'm having headache. let me do choomantar(some voodoo shit) " girl or guy kisses on forehead
"I'm really worried about you"
"Do you want to eat something, I will cook something for you"
"You are the only person that I'm close too in this world" "I know you will take care of me for ever"
"I will not marry anyone, other than you"
"Why didn't we meet earlier"
"God I love you more than anything in this world"
"You are the most beautiful thing in the whole world" "Lets get married right now"

Phase3:
This is the most irritating phase for any two people who are in relationship...Once you got to know each other...you try to get back to your normal life (pre-gf/bf times), catchup with old friends, working out, hanging out with buddies, booze up...and the other person feel that you are not spending time with them (which is true) but that's how it is...you take other person for granted and they think they are always there with you...that's where things start to go wrong...

Here are few samplers...
"I think you have changed a lot"
"Why don't you spend time with me"
"You get mad at me these days and you don't like what ever I do"
"You are so cheap"
"I can't imagine that you talk like this"
"You misunderstood me, I didn't mean that"
"You dont to me, like you use to before"
"I'm don't like the way you talk"

Phase4:
After you get/give all sorts of crap in the last phase, you as a individual defend the allegations...this is the blame-game phase...you say things that you don't mean...but you want to say...but you have to so that your ego doesn't get hurt...It's a cheap phase...this phase leads to the ultimate downfall in a relationship....Break-up

"Why are you behaving like this? "
"I'm doing so much and you think that I don't love you"
"I don't think I can marry you"
"OK, you tell me what you want me to do"
"Wat else u expect me to do"
"I wish i can make you happy"
"I have doubts about our relationship"
"You are not happy with me anymore"
"I feel sad that we are going through this situation"
"I wish things were better"

Phase5:
In this phase You are being hit by a thunderbolt, If you are not strong enough my friend...you will be fucking yourself...you start being desperate to get other person...you start compromising on all the things that you were never comfortable doing with...you beg to get the other person back...

"I don't think I can marry you"
"I know its not your fault, its just me"
"I don't know why am i doing this 2 u"
"I'm sure you will find a better girl than me"
"I think this is the best decision for both of us"
"all I want is to c u happy"
"what if this thing happened after marriage, its good that it happened now"
"You are the only person that i loved"
"I don't think i can love anyone else"
"Please don't talk lovey-dovey things with me, It will very be tough for me to get out of the situation"
"You think I'm having good time...it's tough for me too to get out of this situation"
"I don't have anyone with me, not even you"
"You are a good guy, I'm the bad girl"

Phase6:
You blog about your past relationship :-)
You bitch about your Ex